Why The Deep-Seated Hatred?


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Dislike or hatred of another is the basis of deep-seated complications. The word hatred means the desire to destroy the other. Love means being willing to sacrifice oneself for another, if necessary. In the way we all live there is an abundance of hatred and no music of love.

The feeling which we call love is, in fact, a form of hatred. In making love we make another our means for happiness; and hatred begins. In making love we live for our own self; to serve our own selfish end. We do something for another only when we have some hope of getting something from him – we desire the fruit; otherwise we do nothing. That is why our love may turn into hatred at any moment. If a small obstruction crops up that gets in the way of the fulfillment of our desire, our love will be changed into hatred. Love which can be turned into hatred and contempt is only concealed hatred. There is only hatred within, and the outer covering is just a semblance of love.

If there is no hatred, love blooms of its own accord – spontaneously, naturally. It is like removing a stone blocking a small stream: once removed, the stream flows of its own accord. Similarly, the stone of hatred weighs on us and we are unable to see our faces reflected in the mirrors of all animate and inanimate objects; nor can we become mirrors reflecting all those objects in ourselves.

The person for whom the whole world becomes a mirror, himself becomes a mirror for the whole world. They happen simultaneously. The Upanishad says that when this happens, hatred disappears but it doesn’t say that love is born then, because love is eternal, it is our nature. Neither is it born, nor does it die.

Love is the nature of life, so it has neither birth nor death. Clouds of hatred are born and die. Love is covered when those clouds are born; it manifests itself when they disappear, when they are no more. But love is eternal, so the Upanishad does not talk of the birth of love, it says this much only: hatred dies and disappears.

But how? The sutra is not as easy as it appears. Mostly, there is great depth and intricacy hidden within easy matters. This sutra seems to be straightforward and easy. The whole statement is completed in two lines only. It says, the person who sees himself in all objects – animate and inanimate – and begins to see all objects in himself, will have his hatred destroyed. But to make all his mirror, or to be a mirror for all, is the greatest alchemy and art. There is no greater art.

Courtesy: Osho International Foundation, www.osho.com

Taken from the article written by Osho in TOI, Speaking tree Nov 30.

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Do you love yourself ?


People feel lonely; they need somebody to fill their loneliness. They call it love. They show love because that is the only way to hook the other. The other also calls it love because that is the only way to hook you. But who knows whether there is love or not? Love is just a game Real love is possible, but that happens only when you don’t need anybody!

If you go to a bank and you need money, they will not give you any. If you don’t need money, you have enough, they will come to you and they will always be ready to give you.

When you don’t need a person at all, when you are totally sufficient unto yourself, when you can be alone and tremendously happy and ecstatic, then love is possible. But then too you can be certain about only one thing: whether your love is real. How can you be certain about the other? But then there is no need.

This continuous anxiety — whether the other’s love is real or not — simply shows one thing: that your love is not real Why be worried about it? Enjoy it while it lasts! Be together while you can be together! It is a fiction, but you need fiction.

Behind declarations of love there is nothing but need. You want your lover to be with you to fill your emptiness and so too is the case with her. You are both trying to use each other as a means. That’s why lovers, so-called lovers, are always in conflict — because nobody wants to be used, because when you use a person the person becomes a thing, you have reduced him to a commodity. One day when you are really awake you will be able to love — but then you will be certain about your love only. But that’s enough! Do you love yourself? You have not even asked the question.

When you are really blissful on your own, you don’t want to use anybody. You simply want to share it. And you will feel thankful that somebody was ready to receive. That is the full point. There is no way to be certain about the other — first be certain about you. And a person who is certain about himself is certain about the whole world. Settled, centered, grounded, in yourself, you never worry about such things. You acceptIf somebody loves you, you accept it because you love yourself. You are happy with yourself; somebody else is happy — good! It does not get in your head; it does not make you madly egoistic.

You simply enjoy yourself; somebody else also finds you enjoyable — good! While it lasts, live the fiction as beautifully as possible — it will not last forever. When a love is finished, you start thinking it was false — that’s why it has come to an end. No, not necessarily. It may have had some glimmer of truth in it, but you were both unable to keep and hold that truth. You needed love, but you were not capable of it. When you are aware, a totally different kind of love will arise in your heart — which is absolutely true, which is part of eternity.

Writer – Master Osho Source – Speakingtree.in Image Source – definatalie.com

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