Let’s Play The Game Of Love

This is the best article I have read about Love, do read it twice and you definitely have a different picture of Love in-front of  you.

How can I know that a woman loves me in reality, and is not playing games?

This is difficult! Nobody has ever been able to know it because, love is a game. That is its reality! So if you are waiting, watching, thinking and analyzing whether the woman is just playing a game, you will never be able to love any woman because love is a game, the supreme-most game.

Why ask for it to be real? Play the game! That’s its reality. And if you are too much of a seeker for reality, then love is not for you. It is a dream! It is a fantasy. It is fiction, romance, it is poetry. If you are too much of a seeker for reality, obsessed with reality, then, love is not for you; then you meditate.

There is no way to judge. We are such strangers and our meeting is just accidental. Suddenly we have come across each other, not knowing who we are, not knowing who the other is. Two strangers meeting on a road, feeling alone, hold each others hands and think they are in love. They are in need of the other, certainly, but is this love?

People feel lonely; they need somebody to fill their loneliness. They call it love. They show love because that is the only way to hook the other. The other also calls it love because that is the only way to hook you. But who knows whether there is love or not Real love happens only when you don’t need anybody; that’s the difficulty.

That’s how banks function. If you go to a bank and you need money, they will not give you any. If you don’t need money, you have enough, they will come to you and they will always be ready to give you.

When you don’t need a person at all, when you are totally sufficient unto yourself, when you can be alone and tremendously happy and ecstatic, then love is possible. But even then you cannot be certain whether the others love is real or not.

You can be certain about only one thing: whether your love is real. How can you be certain about the other? But there is no need for this constant anxiety. If you agonize over whether the others love is real or not it shows that your love is not real.

Why be worried about it? Enjoy it while it lasts! Be together while you can be together. You need fiction. Nietzsche said man is such that he cannot live without lies, he cannot live with truth. Lies, in a subtle way, lubricate your system. You both are trying to use each other as a means.

Don’t create anxiety. And try to become more and more awake. One day when you are really awake you will be able to love but then you will be certain about your love only. But that’s enough! Because right now you want to use others. When you are really blissful on your own, you don’t want to use anybody. You simply want to share. You have so much, you are overflowing, you would like somebody to share it. And you will feel thankful that somebody was ready to receive.

Written by – Osho Source – Speakingtree.in

Why Some People Seem to Have All The Luck

Why do some people have all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve?

I set out to examine luck, 10 years ago. Why are some people always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune? I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, have been interviewed by me. I have monitored their lives and had them take part in experiments. The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts and behaviour are responsible for much of their good and bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky people do not.

I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: ‘Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50’.

This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.

Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.

As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties intent on finding their perfect partner and so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.

Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.

I wondered towards the end of the work, whether these principles could be used to create good luck. I asked a group of volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think and behave like a lucky person. Dramatic results! These exercises helped them spot chance opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more resilient to bad luck. One month later, the volunteers returned and described what had happened. The results were dramatic: 80 per cent of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps most important of all, luckier.

The lucky people had become even luckier and the unlucky had become lucky. Finally, i had found the elusive ‘luck factor’. Here are four top tips for becoming lucky:

1) Listen to your gut instincts – they are normally right.
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine.
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well.
4) Visualise yourself being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call.

Have a Lucky day and work for it.

The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.

Author – Richard Wiseman

The author of `The Luck Factor’ teaches at the University of Hertfordshire.

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In the name of Future

Its a simple story again from my childhood, a very popular, but encouraging and has been lost as we grow from our childhood to our young age. This is a simple story of a very old Gardner, from the times when king used to rule the territories. This old gardner used to take care of the plants and plant one tree daily into his land.

One day, the king on this royal chariot goes out and watch this old Gardner working very hard in the shiny sun. The king stops there  to get some water and the Gardner, thinking of its duty serves the  king with water and the fruits from his garden. After a full good apetite, king ask the Gardner, why he plant new trees in-spite it has too many trees in his garden and go for a nice living without too much efforts.

Gardner gives a very gentle reply. He tells, when I was small, my grandfather and father used to plant new trees in order that when these trees will grow up, it will be used to serve it for me and my child in the future and I am following the same tradition. When my grand child will get bigger, they used to enjoy the same privilege, what I was enjoying now, given by my fore-fathers.

The story is very simple, it shows a  very important message to the present generation…What we will left for our future generation, when we die. We have already enjoyed a very good privileges from what our ancestors has been left for us….fresh air, trees, lands to cultivate, a healthy environment, but the question is are we doing the same for our future and passing our culture to them.

The mentioned story teach us to left a good privilege for the generations to come, its a thought, which meant to give the same to our future, when we already enjoyed and lost it, because we haven’t reap the same on time. Through this, its a message to deliver that its the time, when we have to take decisions and plant new trees, so that our future will understand the lost culture and maintain the same for their future, so the cycle continues.Writer — Vibhore Goel

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Expiry Date

Most of my thoughts were rummaging that what I had to do to swirl my life to be happy. Whatever I did is my past and is truly and deeply not in my favor. Things which happened in my life were totally different than the way I wanted them to take place. This was the sole reasons which kept me apart and lead me to try new things but a weird nest of fear was building inside me and was making me weaker day by day.

My incapability to bring my life on track echoed in my head till the time I got a voice from my mom. She was in kitchen, cooking food for me. She is a woman who has killing smile, great cooking skills and is big at heart, I have ever seen. I can’t even imagine living without her. I don’t think you can get the kind of love a mom can offer even if you put whatever you have on stake. Hope all of you are agree with me here.

She is diabetic patient so she has to take medicine on daily basis to stay fit. As her stock was over she called me up to bring medicine from the nearest medical store. I was in my room thinking over what I had to do so that smile stayed over my face every time.

With this thought in my head I went to the chemist, I asked him for the medicine with sad voice which I was looking for. I paid the money as he handed me a packet of it. While checking the expiry date a thought knocked my mind. I asked myself that do I have an expiry date. Did my manufacturer put it on me?

As per my understanding if we all have manufacturing date which we celebrate as birthday that means we all have expiry date too. But we are not familiar with it. We don’t have advantage like medicine which knows its last date. We never know when we are going to be expired. May be today is our last day and we won’t be able to see tomorrow’s sunrise. I don’t want to be sad on my last day. Now, I have a motive I want to die knowing that somebody loved me. Smile rose on my lips whenever I thought about my motto of life and you will be happy to know that it is right there on my lips from that day to till date.

So, before you meet with your expiry date go ahead and tell whom you loved and care, that they mean a lot to you and thank them for being a part of your life and hug them, if possible. If you aren’t able to tell them, text an SMS to them if. I wish it should reach them just like it is reaching to me. You only have to do your part. Rests leave it on God. It can make you feel special and can be memorable. It can help you to grow and bloom a flower called happiness once you accept that you have planted it at the right place and then miracle will happen, people get to know you not by your looks and money but by the way you smile, adore and love them.

Writer — Bharat Chugh

Inspiring Quotes 3

• My nature is to love Him. And therefore I love. I do not pray for any-thing. I do not ask for anything. Let Him place me wherever He likes. I must love Him for love’s sake. I cannot trade in love. by Swami Vivekananda

• He who trusts in the Lord, is ever at peace, with himself and the world by Dada J P Vaswani

• Acquiring fame, wealth and prosperity become meaningless if our achievements are not appreciated by our partner or the people we care about.

• Step out of what is safe, comfortable and familiar to you. Examine what feelings emerge when you are thinking about taking a risk. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?” Concealing yourself in a safe container prevents you from exploring other possibilities. Embrace the unknown and anticipate success. You will never know the outcome if you don’t take the risk.

• Listening to your inner critic can sabotage your dreams. Silence the critic by reaffirming all the things you are capable of doing. Dream big and be excited about your future.

• Continuing to live life in a safe container doesn’t help you gain anything in life. Take the necessary actions to achieve your goals. Stop assuming and start achieving!

• We all have negative and positive sides. Nobody on this earth has a squeaky clean nature. We all have flaws, however some people are observed negatively by their rude behavior and we become very judgmental about them putting them in the negative category. We should understand that people who are rude have their own weaknesses. They do not choose to be like that.

• The polite words filled to the brim with modesty and love melt the hearts of even the rudest amongst the crowd. By talking politely to all we can make an impact on others’ lives.

• You’ll find your passion in what inspires you the most. And what does the word “inspire” mean? It derives from the words, “in spirit”. When you’re inspired, you never have to ask about your purpose. You’re living it.

• “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” – Steve Jobs (1955 – 2011)